(Retrieved from TIA's old multiply.com account, first published in June 17, 2010.)
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| My pamangkins, Tonya and Yoyo. |
In an ocean of
nameless faces around us, it’s really hard to find someone man enough to bring
you down the isles. Undoubtedly, every woman is on the hunt looking for their
shining armor. They may have been in a relationship for a long time, yet they
still can’t be certain if their man is worthy enough to exchange vows with. The
question now is whether or not your guy is showing any indications of being
ready to tie the knot.
Men are hard to
read. They’re like nutshells either afraid or refuse to be put on the
spotlight. Not most men openly show signs they are ready for the real thing. So
I asked a couple of friends, men and women alike, as to their opinion in
relation to this issue, based on the assumption that the guy got a stable job.
These are not clear-cut policies or hard-and-fast rules in answering those
questions, but at least maybe you can look into and check these stuffs for your
reference. There’s no harm in considering them anyway. Just make sure you’ll
take these in an objective manner, in a way that won’t offend your partner.
Conscious
Withdrawals
Men are big
spenders. Some of them toss around money like they got a gold mine in their
pockets. But when he frequents himself on a bank and always think of his ATM
receipts like a Secretary of Department of Treasury, then he’s up into
something good. You might notice he keeps track of his withdrawals with tons of
receipts on his wallet.
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Erecting A Post
Most of the time,
the youngest in the family gets the house. You’re lucky if your guy is the
youngest, you’ll have an instant love nest. But if it’s the other way around,
then you’ll have to see what his plans will be. Part of a guy’s pride is having
and building his own house. He’d rather erect a post and have his own place
wherein he can exercise his authority as a man. But if he insists on staying on
his parents’ house with the rest of the family, then you’ll have to think
twice. If not dream of putting up his own house, he thinks of renovating his
parents’ manor.
Cleaning Up His
Closet
Mobile phones.
Networking accounts in the internet like Friendster, Camfrog chat rooms, and Facebook.
Name it, they have it. These are men’s better means of connection with different
warm-blooded species. Carefree, you might find a lot of nasty things on their
vault. But when your guy starts cleaning them up, keeping only contacts with
his business associates, you should start wearing your smile for he’s showing
to you that he’s yours, especially when he lets you look into his closet.
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Boar On Leash
Definitely men
are party animals. They love to strut around bars rubbing skins with other
girls, swag in and out of different places of entertainment with friends, drive
pointlessly at the street, spend the night anywhere with someone else or return
home late, if not drank, tipsy. And yes, there are still hundreds of ways
of beating the break of dawn. However, there will still come a time when they
choose to stay home watching tv, reading or killing their time storming over
work related things. And if you find your guy putting himself on a leash with
his drawing boards instead of “boaring” around the city, then put a check on
your list because you got yourself a good catch. It will then be easy to pull
your man down the discussion table over marriage matters.
Slippery Fish
Of course a guy
can’t party by himself. There will always be a devil’s advocate to drive him
crazy. But when he stores a lot of alibis to excuse himself from friends’ invitations
to paint the town red, you can say then that your man is beginning to mature
and getting himself ready to spending more time with you.
Keeping Hard
Earned Penny
Basically, men
are impulsive buyer. In contrast to women who spend a lifetime in buying a
particular product, men hate prolonging the purchase process. They can
procure something in an instant, as fast as they can shell out money for
bottles of beer in a drinking spree. But as they become more serious and
consumed in a relationship, their earned penny gets stuck in their wallet.
Eventually, they turn out to be a wise spender. Thus, if your man is beginning
to grow pockets under his skin, then you’re almost safe with him financially
for he’s into saving spree.
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Pee Friendly
Around the city
you’ll find the word “toys for the big boys” printed on cars and other
motorized vehicles. One thing is for sure, men love cars. But cuddling babies
on their lap is another thing. This is so since not all men love to play with
kids, toddlers or babies. And having a baby pee on their lap is one of those
nightmares they wish not to experience. On the other hand, your man might
be telling you something special if he keeps on hugging and kissing a baby or
having a great time playing with kids despite the stinking pee. The man you’re
looking into is actually projecting that he can be or will be a caring father
in the future.
Big Mouth
One of the things
that women hate about men is their tendency to avoid serious conversations,
especially when they feel like they’re being purposely trapped into something.
However, as you go along your relationship and your man starts talking big
about getting married, that should immediately ring a bell to you. It may sound
strange to you, but try reading between the lines every words coming out of his
mouth and you might be able to return to your sanity. More conversations about
it should be on the way.
There are still
hundreds of means and approaches in telling if your man is really a
husband-material and whether he’s ready to get married. You may set your own
set of standards in finding the right man. And with all those times you and
your man have been together, you should be able to sense, see and understand
the things he’s doing. And when the two of you have come to the end of the
line, don’t hesitate, ask your man if he’s man enough to marry you. But always
be ready to take “no” for an answer.
